Master Your Communication
Mentally and physically we communicate throughout our lifetime.
It's unfortunate that we’re not taught the art of communication in a more positive way from an early age.
Oftentimes observation is not our best teacher or mentor.
Instead, we learn to communicate with mixed and incomplete messages that mask our intentions, lead to upsets, and misunderstandings.
“Relationships need nurturing. Build up your emotional account with kind words and actions. Be careful and gracious with critique. Let people know that you appreciate what they do for you, or that you’re glad they’re part of your life.”
-Mark Robert Waldman
Interrupting when someone is speaking.
Not paying attention or listening.
Assuming what someone is saying without letting them finish.
Attacking the person instead of their position.
Giving advice when not asked.
We All Have Communication Struggles.
If you’ve never reflected on the way you speak to others, you’re doing yourself a huge disservice. That’s because communication is the way you connect with others and can make or break your most important relationships and the future success of your career.
Communication is one of the most crucial abilities we humans possess, which is why it’s a skill to be honed like any other.
Kate Lyons (Profound Partnerships blogger) chose to overcome her and her partner's conversation struggles with the simple steps in the ebook that teaches values-based communication. It resulted in a profound shift in the way they related to each other.
Take a look at Kate's summary and see if it resonates with what you want for yourself.
"My partner and I found ourselves talking past each other, not with each other.
I can get very passionate when I speak, and I was used to letting it all fall out, so to speak, with my partner. We’d built a pretty solid relationship over the years, and I was used to letting all my best and worst parts just fly in the wind with him.
Then when we inevitably had disagreements, I would quickly retreat back into myself for a while. I’d ice him out to make myself feel safe, and then slowly reopen as time passed. It was a troublesome pattern.
I know I could take on quite a cold, distant demeanor. I’d cross my arms, lean away, look away or down, sigh, frown, and speak in clipped and icy tones to communicate my displeasure. My partner often did the same.
Unfortunately, that method didn’t exactly foster trust and openness between us. My partner absolutely hated it when I iced him out, but I couldn’t seem to stop. At least, not until this communication ebook woke me up to the pattern at play.
As we talked through this trust and intimacy-centered topic, our conversation itself started to shift. Just by thinking about and discussing communication values tools, we started adopting them almost subconsciously.
As we both relaxed into the journey, I took some important steps toward fixing that most challenging icy demeanor.
Profound Partnerships has a funny way of getting me to be vulnerable without feeling weak or in danger. Rather, the calm discussions my partner and I had left me feeling relaxed, curious, connected, and relieved."
The Benefits of Learning the Steps of a Values-Based Communication:
Lets the one you care to communicate with know that they are important to you.
It helps ensure that others will understand you.
You'll focus your attention on what you value and respect.
You'll be more patient with how something is said.
It can save a relationship.
Values-based communication is the most compassionate way of relating to anyone.
You'll learn how to say more of what you want and less of what you don't.
Our Master Your Communication ebook packs the expertise of three university psychology programs into a concise "how-to" guide.
Leave the research to us.
You'll learn how to have the most exciting and memorable conversations using easy to follow steps.
Inside the E-Booklet you'll see:
1. Positive Communication Rules
2. Negative Communication Behaviors (no finger-pointing)
3. Twelve Steps that put you in control of your emotions and reactions so you can gain: Compassion, Patience, Understanding, and Trust
4. An active 12-day Communication Progress Chart
This active chart allows you to check off how you progress each day and allows you to self-correct where needed. Your highest score would be 36. Three points per day.
You will gain a new level of communication that will elevate your connection with others.
Communication is so crucial a skill that I want to make this offer affordable to everyone. It's an investment in yourself.
The price is $5.00 and is available to everyone.
Practice the skills and share them with others.
My goal is to help you develop lasting relationships that speak with respect and honor what is of value to both of you or as a group.
Another product you may be interested in if you want a lasting life partnership.
If you're looking for a more in-depth resource to help prepare you and your partner for living together, this interactive couples preparation web-application is privately shared between two people. Learn more about it and have the most fulfilling relationship of your life.